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Your Realtor wanting the deal to close and your Realtor wanting the right outcome for you are not always the same thing."

I can usually tell within the first few minutes of a call whether the agent on the other side is desperate to get this deal closed. And I don't mean that as an insult — I get it, this is how people feed their families. But desperation changes behavior, and once you know what to look for, you'll see it too.

It shows up in the inspection. A desperate agent glosses over the findings. They'll say "that's pretty normal for a house this age" about something that isn't normal at all, or they'll rush you past the report before you've had time to actually read it.

It shows up in the language. "Let's just make it work." "We don't want to lose the house over this." Sounds reasonable, right? Except "make it work" is doing a lot of heavy lifting in that sentence, and usually what it means is you absorb the risk so the deal doesn't fall apart.

It shows up in what doesn't get said. A good agent has the uncomfortable conversation early — "this appraisal might come in low," "this seller might not negotiate," "this is a real risk, not a small one." A desperate agent avoids that conversation as long as possible, because an uncomfortable truth might slow the deal down.

And it shows up in how they treat your concerns. You bring up something that's bothering you — the foundation crack, the neighbor's fence line, the fact that the sellers seem to be in a hurry to leave — and instead of digging into it with you, they minimize it. They treat your legitimate concern like it's an obstacle between them and a commission check, instead of exactly the kind of thing they're supposed to be thinking about on your behalf.

Here's the thing people don't realize: closing a deal and getting you the right deal are not automatically the same outcome. Sometimes they line up perfectly. Sometimes they don't. And when they don't, you find out really fast who your agent is actually working for.

I get paid when things close too. I'm not pretending otherwise. But my job isn't to get you to the closing table as fast as possible — my job is to make sure that when you get there, it's because it's the right move, not because nobody wanted to slow down and say the hard thing.

I work for the client — not the closing."

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